Hidden beach on Koh Phangan
At times in life we are faced with big choices. You know the type. The ones which carry enough power to rapidly shift the entire direction of our existence. I contemplate this archetypal moment as I stand on the verge of a big move to a new city–and ultimately a new chapter in life.
In these situations we’re offered a pair of options, a. the known, the comfortable and “safe” choice, or b. the mysterious, challenging alternative aka “the unknown”. Making big changes means stepping out of your comfort zone, no matter what that looks like.
Think of a seed, cracking open to begin its journey towards transforming into a grand tree. You have to step out of your security bubble to embrace the possibility of a better future.
So, if you are on the precipice of a big shift I encourage you to turn inwards and ask yourself three questions. Temper reason with imagination; logic with a hint of faith.
What’s the worst that can happen?
The mind is our own greatest critic and skeptic. My mind frequently attempts to psych me out of “taking the leap” due to fear of failure, not being good enough etc. etc… Yet our clever mind would allow us to waste years away on our phone throughout a lifetime. Basically, the mind is falliable. Don’t feed into unfounded fears around change. Explore realistically what could go wrong and assess whether it’s a risk you can stomach.
What’s the best that can happen?
Yeah, give yourself permission to go there. What happens when you ‘take the leap’ and something really beautiful and profound transforms in your life? Dream the dream and try to explore your true motivations for making this decision. Are you motivated by sincere excitement, inspiration, hope? What’s driving you? Locate the root and if it’s in line with your highest and best, then aim high.
Am I ready to let go?
Ultimately making a hard choice requires a degree of surrender. You have to submit to the powers of time and uncertainty–and allow yourself to be vulnerable in your decision. Facing the unknown gracefully means letting go of what you have in search of something more. It’s an opportunity to be brave…to be open to learning, adapting and embracing whatever life is giving you in the moment.
Life is the experience of an unfolding eternal now. This exact moment is the one we have power to shape. So if you are faced with a crossroads, I encourage you to take the reigns of your existence and make a choice that can take you to new heights.
I’ll leave you with one of my favorite quotes of all time, by Terence McKenna
“Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering its a feather bed.”